Over-coming Heartbreak

Over-coming Heartbreak

Dr Prerna Kohli, India's Top Psychologist - Tips on dealing with Heartbreak
Dr Prerna Kohli, India’s Top Psychologist – Tips on dealing with Heartbreak

Heartbreaks Hurt Deeply


Heartbreaks hurt deeply and give a hard pull on the strings that we grew attached to. Hence, it leaves us ripped to the core, overwhelmed with overpowering emotions of loss, despair, panic, shame, and hopelessness about the present and future. They also make a deep dent in our belief systems towards love and relationships. Thus, no one anticipates or wishes for such situation and it becomes difficult to handle yourself in those moments while you are still yearning to re-live the good times with your mate.

However, the sun has to shine, birds have to chirp, flowers have to bloom and life has to move on. Hence, it’s best to get over the pain and emotional ache before it gets out of hand. Let us look at the positive ways of coping with such situation:

Dr Prerna Kohli, India's Top Psychologist - Tips on dealing with Heartbreak
Dr Prerna Kohli, India’s Top Psychologist – Tips on dealing with Heartbreak

Coping Mechanisms


Emotions:
 The emotional crisis is real and pretty much everyone who faces the situation will feel just like you. So, avoid bottling up your feelings and let them out, through tears if you will. By doing this, you will make moving on easier for yourself.

Activities: Also, engage in activities that you enjoy and let you relax. That keeps the mind off the heartbreak and the feeling will subside over time.

Accept: Most importantly, accept the happening and accept yourself and remember that it was just a learning experience which will have a positive effect on your future. This one person’s love need not be the end of love for you. Avoid self-hatred and sense of rejection towards self and focus on self-nurture.

Mingle: Make it a point to meet friends and family and plan trips or outings with them.  They are your support system and will be more than happy to help you navigate your tough times.

Focus on moving on. Focus for a while on your career and family. If you help someone else out, you’ll feel good, and have a chance to take your mind off the pain. Good times are a great way to help you get over heartbreak. Keep ongoing with your day and focus on your work.

Serve: Community service is one of the best ways to feel a sense of importance, mission, and purpose. Helping others will give you good feelings and take your mind off the pain.

Shift focus: Shift your focus from feeling the pain of breakup towards building yourself. Focus on your growth by improving your skills, career, income, and health.

Gratitude: Be grateful for all the positive things in your life. Think about creating your future instead of letting a single loss destroy a beautiful possibility of life.

Fill your time: This might sound like escapism but it’s a good strategy in the initial stages after a break-up. Fill your time to the last minute on purposeful activities while at the same time, allowing yourself some space to grieve and let it out.

Seek professional help: Don’t be ashamed if you are unable to help yourself. A skilled counseling professional can quicken the process and ease the emotional pain for you.

Dr Prerna Kohli, India's Top Psychologist - Tips on dealing with Heartbreak
Dr Prerna Kohli, India’s Top Psychologist – Tips on dealing with Heartbreak