Most of the teachers your child meets are good or even excellent. But, there are few teachers who will try and bully your child. Sometimes, some teacher considers and take their responsibilities as a post of power. Hence, they start bullying your child and try to make them work very hard. Moreover, even when the work is completed, your child is yet scolded than praised for his/her efforts.
These days physical bullying is still reported, but emotional and psychological bullying is hard to report. Also, most of the parents ignore the plea of the child when the child complains about their teachers. Hence, the reports of bullying teacher are not much. But, it becomes your duty, as a parent, to listen to what your child is saying and take action against the bully.
Thus, below are few tips to Handle a Bully Teacher:
Keep a Record:
Whenever your child comes to you with a complaint about the same teacher, it is important to note down the date, time and what has been said. If other students are also involved or are seeing what is happening, it is a good option to take their account also. Also, if the bullying is extreme, or physical or cyber, then it is best to report to the authorities.
Support Your Child:
It’s important to reassure your child every time they come to you for help. An important part of parenting is to listen to your child and understand their plea. If you see signs of depression or anxiety in your child then please don’t hesitate to visit a psychologist.
When your child is going through the experience of bullying, especially by a teacher, their self-esteem starts taking damage. Hence, it is important to boost their self-esteem constantly. You can do that by encouraging their strengths, and activities they like to do. Thus, talking about things other than bullying will help them take their mind off the situation.
Talk to Your Child before a Visit:
As bullying is a serious matter, directly discussing it with the teacher(s) might have repercussions. Hence, it is important to talk with your child first before visiting the teacher. Also, talking and informing about your visit will prepare your child emotionally.
Go through the Chain of Commands:
Before directly going to the highest authority, it is important to follow the chain of commands. A person who is present at the situation will be able to understand the situation better, rather than the person who doesn’t know what is happening. Also, if you directly approach the people who are at the top, they might ask who has sent you to them, or who have you already talked to.
Request a Meeting with the Teacher:
It is important to meet the teacher directly. This way, you will be able to listen to their side also. Also, refrain yourself from shouting, accusing or getting angry. It is important to handle the situation as a mature adult. Also, if you are ready to listen to the teacher’s side the person will be less defensive as they will understand that you are open to perspectives.
Take your Complaint higher if necessary:
Many times, the teacher will resort to blaming, justifying or even not acknowledging the situation. At this point, you can always approach the higher authorities, with all your documentation. If you see, that the principal is also supporting the teacher then take the case to the members of the board.
Do not Let the Bullying continue:
If you see, that even the board members are not taking any action, or not doing anything to help you can always opt for legal actions. Meanwhile, it is advisable to take your child out of the situation and consider a transfer of schools.
Bullying is a serious offence and leaves a huge impact in a child’s life. Hence, it is important to not let this matter go unchecked. Bullying cannot stop without intervention. If you feel that it is still continuing, then it is best to take legal actions and transfer your child to a different school.
Also, if you feel that your child is suffering from any kind of bullying, it is important that you take him to a mental health professional. This is because bullying can have severe repercussions in a child’s mind.