Helping your Children Cope with the Death of a Grandparent

For children, the death of their grandparent is often the first exposure they have to the idea of mortality. Therefore, before anything else, they first need to be introduced and familiarised with the concept of death. The child might struggle with a range of emotions during such times, just like any other adult. They might feel angry, upset, and confused. However, unlike adults, children are not yet equipped to deal with such a mixed bag of emotions. Therefore, the support of their parents comes to the forefront, to help them cope with the loss. Additionally, because this might be their first encounter with the death of someone, they might have a lost of questions to ask. Thus, giving them a patient hear and clearing their doubts also becomes important.

Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist Talks about Helping your Children Cope with the Death of a Grandparent
Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist Talks about Helping your Children Cope with the Death of a Grandparent

How children respond to death and grieve will determine how they handle such losses in the future as well. How much and how they grieve will also depend on the relationship proximity they shared with their grandparent. Children often tend to be extremely close to their grandparents during their childhood as they act as secondary, if not primary caregivers. Therefore, losing them can be a big blow for a child.

The following tips might help you support your child as they cope with the loss of heir grandparent –

  • Answer their questions honestly and maintain consistency.
  • Avoid using euphemisms. Use simple language.
  • Provide the platform to express themselves freely. Listen and accept their feelings. Comfort them.
  • Give them the time and space they need to grieve. Understand that some children may grieve way after the death has occurred.
  • Try not to put the entire onus of death on old age as this might instill a fear in the child about losing everyone who is turning old.
  • Ensure that the child does not feel that they are to be blamed for the death in any way. Tell them that death is a natural part of life and not a form of punishment.

    Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist Talks about Helping your Children Cope with the Death of a Grandparent
    Dr Prerna Kohli India’s Top Psychologist Talks about Helping your Children Cope with the Death of a Grandparent
  • Create a ritual or ceremony that helps the child remember and preserve their good memories.

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