In my private practice as a Psychologist and a Marriage Counselor; I find that at times couples will come in for marriage counselling when it’s too late. As soon as you feel that there are problems in your marriage; it is a good time to have a counselling session. As the saying says “A stitch in time saves nine”.
Just like you never medicate yourself, similarly, you shouldn’t try and solve serious marital issues yourself. Given below are seven signals, signs, or indicators that you should meet a counsellor to discuss your issues.
You aren’t talking:
Communication is the most important part of marriage, the couple need to have open channels of communication with each other. Messages aren’t conveyed to each other via children or others
You’re talking, but it’s always negative talk:
You talk to each other, but the talk is always negative, you are either criticizing each other or finding fault with each other or your spouses family
You’re afraid to talk:
It is more convenient to avoid talking, as talking leads to fights, arguments and unpleasantness.
Affection, intimacy and sex are withheld as punishment:
Either of the spouses decides to be the “punisher” by withholding affection, and intimacy
You keep secrets:
While each individual is entitled some privacy in a relationship, to keep secrets in a marriage not a sign of a healthy relationship
You contemplate (or are having) an affair:
An affair is not only a signal of unfulfilled sexual desires but also a lack of something in the marriage. If a spouse is fantasizing about having an affair or is having an affair; it is time to meet a marriage counselor.
You’re living separate lives:
If your lives are independent, and you are living together as roommates than it is time to meet a psychologist to heal and repair the marriage.
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About Dr. Prerna Kohli
She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides pre-marriage, marriage and post marriage counseling.
